Rules online dating ebook
"The Rules are about boundaries and self-esteem," says Schneider. "If you want more from a guy, give less." It's good advice, written in the vein of now-famous post-Rules guides Why Men Love Bitches and He's Just Not That Into You; each is predicated on creating an epiphany moment in women, when they suddenly understand what it is that men want or need from them.
"That is not repressive: that is called self-control and smart, effective behaviour." "We are feminists," adds Fein. We say go ahead and run a marathon and buy a condo and start a new business, just don't chase guys. Plenty of us have been waiting to find that out for years.
"These days, it doesn't matter whether a guy calls, texts or emails to ask you out," goes one of their hymeneal homilies, "as long as he asks you right." "Technology is great," continues Schneider. But it's the overuse of technology that is the problem. They're addicted to answering guys back in nanoseconds and they're not getting dates.
They're getting more texts and Facebook messages and no dates." "They're writing on guys' walls, friending their cousins and scaring them away," adds Fein.
Right appeared in 1995 and advocated doing pretty much what your mother told you: play hard to get; keep a bit in reserve; remain mysterious.
Essentially, The New Rules deals with social media and our increased interconnectivity by ignoring it all and pretending humanity was at a comms high around the time Rapunzel was locked up in that tower Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider practice what they preach.
As authors of the dating guide that became a phenomenon – referenced in Sex and the City, and updated this year to include advice on how to date in the digital age – they achieved global fame for being women that know what men want.
"They're posting so many mundane status updates that they come across as the opposite of mysterious.
A Rules girl is busy and disappears between dates." To help you maintain a more elusive online presence, The New Rules outlines a "blackout period" between 6pm on a Friday and 6pm on a Sunday, during which time no texting, messaging, email or social media updates are allowed.